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Mar. 19th, 2008 | 09:20 pm
posted by: loli_scarecrow in confident_lolis

 Uwah, does anyone still check this anymore? Cause I figured it would be fitting if we had a post on shirred dresses from any brand for the bigger lolitas, >,<

"What are You Wearing!?!"

Feb. 8th, 2007 | 05:58 pm
posted by: lolita_maid in confident_lolis

How do you respond to this question, if someone asks you? I don't really know what to say to people-__-'


Styles you're most comfortable in

Jan. 28th, 2007 | 04:36 pm
mood: curious curious
posted by: liastrife in confident_lolis

As everybody knows, there are lots of different sub-styles (or sub-genres, as I like to call them) of Lolita - Punk, Gothic, Sweet, White, Black, Classic, Princess, Country, Guro (I'm sure I'm missing some)...and we mustn't forget Aristocrat, Dandy and Kodona!

So, my question is, which of these sub-genres are you most comfortable in? Which make you cringe at the thought of wearing them, and why?

For me, I'm most comfortable in Punk Lolita - mostly because it's on the casual side, and I can fly under the radar (as it were) if I want to while still being recognizable as a Lolita to those who know the fashion. After that, I'm most comfortable in Classic Lolita, because I feel it captures the "Lolita spirit" while still being a little toned down.

Most uncomfortable? Certainly Sweet Lolita! I'm awestruck by Lolis who have the confidence and poise to wear the beautiful and adorable stylings of Sweet Lolita out in the open, and I really hope to be like them someday. But, for now, I can hardly imagine wearing a headdress outside, never mind all those fabulous ruffles!


Corset tutorial?

Jan. 21st, 2007 | 08:26 pm
location: CANADA
mood: nervous nervous
music: Rise agianst - ready to fall
posted by: loli_scarecrow in confident_lolis

Hmm I'd realyl like to make a corset tutorial seeing how I'm making one for my friend : 3 But if no ones all that interested I don't feel like bothering with a camera and taking picture of everything you know? =_= It'll be a zip up back, not exactly a corset but It will have boneing a the criss crossess on the front ^^ just post if you're interested : )


Boobie squishing to fit into AP

Jan. 20th, 2007 | 11:47 am
mood: tired tired
music: Plastic Tree- Aoi Tori
posted by: paranoia9 in confident_lolis

Today I'll be replacing the waistband on my petti and making aheadbow to match my new AP dress so I can wear it tommorow. :] I'll probably post pictures soon.

It arrived yesterday and I was extremely pleased with the fact that it *mostly* fits. My waist and arms are fine, but my boobs. :[ I wore it with a sports bra to squish them down a tad, I can get the dress on comfortably, but it gave me a flattened uni-boob look. It doesn't look terrible, but there has to be some sort of alternative.

Does anyone have any ideas? I've heard about reducer bras but I haven't been able to find any, even online. Thank you to anyone who helps!


Multi-size clothing sewing grumbles.

Jan. 18th, 2007 | 08:44 pm
mood: frustrated with sewing frustrated with sewing
music: Kate Bush - Oh England My Lionheart
posted by: cornix in confident_lolis

Do other lolitas who both sew and are trying to lose weight get as frustrated as I do about having to make all your clothes adjustable size, so they'll fit you still if you get smaller? I sure do. I mean, it's worth it in the long run, but sometimes it's just so much extra planning and effort!

I have a few skirts with elastic waistbands, and that's a good way to get around that issue, but I don't really like the look of them that much, so these days I tend to go for a partial elastic waistband. I still wish I could make a regular flat waistband though! Partial elastic bands can be so fiddly sometimes, and I prefer the smooth look of a flat band. I know I wouldn't want to have to pull the skirt apart and re-gather it later. Gathering is evil. I guess you could sew a flat waistband and then, if the skirt has a bow, tie the bow tighter... but I imagine that might not be so comfortable, and might sit wrong.

What else is there? Well, shirring. A lot of people don't like the look of a fully shirred bodice, and I can understand that. I change my mind on that issue a lot. Incorporating back shirring is a good way to sew something that could still fit you if you lose or gain weight, whilst still having a pretty front.

Also, I don't own a serger, so I zigzag my edges, and I generally zigzag each piece separately before I sew a seam, rather than both at once afterwards. This is mostly just out of habit personally, but it does make it easier later on if you want to pull something apart and make it more fitted. Larger seam allowances are good if you intend to let something out later, but I still use small seam allowances... anyway, I don't want to have to let them out! >:(

Hmm, this started off just me bitching about sewing, but I kind of went on a tangent. Does anyone else have any tips or opinions on sewing lolita clothes when you hope to lose weight?


[A big thing to most] Wearing Lolita to school.

Jan. 17th, 2007 | 06:47 pm
posted by: jjjookie in confident_lolis

I, personally, have yet to wear a Lolita outfit to school yet (but I do plan on once I get my first one for my birthday.) But, we all know that wearing a lolita outfit to school (moreso high school, I'd say) is a big step and you need to have an extreme amount of confidence. Because we all know that we will stick out, we will be looked at funny, we will be asked many questions, and we might even be made fun of. But its best to keep cool in such situations and answer questions to your best ability, and smile at those who give you funny looks. ~.^ Being made fun of is always a tough blow to deal with but being the mature person that you know you are, you shouldn't let such comments even touch you. Being strong and not letting a comment get to you is your best bet. You always have to remember that people who try to bring others down have their own personal problems that they can't deal with so they make fun of others to feel better about themselves.

I brought my Gothic & Lolita Bible to school today for 'show and tell' (Yeah 11th grade and my criminal justice teacher tells us to do show and tell xD;.) But a couple kids who looked at it were like, "Do people in Japan actually wear this stuff? That's weird. What freaks." And stuff like that. So I simply said, "Well I bet they look at our fashion and go, 'Oh how dull.' You just believe its weird because its not what you see here in the US being advertised by a top brand. I bet if Abercrombie started selling clothing like this everyone would jump on the bandwagon because its the new in thing." So the kid who was making those comments then stopped. Another boy said he just didn't understand the culture behind it and I explained it to him to the best of my ability and once he had an understanding, he said he had respect for it and said he respects people's decisions to wear whatever they want and if I came to school wearing lolita he said he wouldn't really say anything but just have respect for me for standing out and wearing what I like and living how I want too. So I recieved many mixed reactions from people in my classes, one kid said he wanted to go to Japan and buy some clothes, some girl said the parasols looked like Little Bo Peep and she thought it was dumb.

But there's just a lot of reactions that you can recieve, you just have to remember to take them all in with grace and understanding~ and not let the bad one's get you down. ♥



Jan. 16th, 2007 | 06:33 pm
posted by: labellereine in confident_lolis

Hello ^_^!
I'm reasonably new to lolita, I have been following it for some time,
but I've recently made the decision to start building my wardrobe.

I'm going to be honest, my confidence is pretty okay, I'm in the process of being comfortable with my body, and excepting the fact that I am a beautiful puerto-rican girl who is healthy and that though 24 inch waist girls are also beautiful, my body will not get down to that size.
Though I do not want to contradict myself, I do excercise to tone my body and to be healthy.

I've always been the oddball out and I realized if someone will not get to know me for who I am as a person not by what I wear, then they are shallow.

In the sense of Lolita, my confidence is really sort of hanging there by
a thread because I don't know where to buy or what to buy..I've been spending hours reading, looking, and viewing posts, websites, links, etc. and I'm on a budget and do to my size, certain outfits cannot happen.

I'm looking for some recommendations on anything pertaining to buying clothing.
Ranging from shops to seamstresses to ebay stores.

I have links to some shops and while the dress looks nice on the website,
it could be a dissappointment when you get it, and if you don't feel comfortable in it, you won't feel comfortable with yourself.

Thank you!!
For reading this rather long post!


Self-Confidence for the Lolita (taken mostly from www.more-selfesteem.com - an excellent website)

Jan. 16th, 2007 | 03:43 pm
mood: good good
posted by: liastrife in confident_lolis

1) Feel Good when you Want!

When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. It could be as easy as browsing around for a new Lolita dress, or going for a walk, or cooking something tasty for you and your friends and family. These 3 things can be tangible or intangible - Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind whenever you feel down.

Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.

2) Beat Self Consciousness

Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...

a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.

b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:

  • find out if you like the other people in the situation
  • make others feel comfortable
  • find out some information
  • make business contacts
  • and so on...

It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task!

Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial information, it could be whatever you want it to be!

3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !

Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:

a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too! For example, even Lolitas who talk very confidently or look confident in pictures may struggle with their self-esteem sometimes.

b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.

c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're very wrong! Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image. 

Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!


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Jan. 16th, 2007 | 03:28 pm
posted by: liastrife in confident_lolis

Hey Lolis!

If there's one food item that is eternally tied to all Lolita-dom...it is the cake.

If there is one food item that is eternally tied to a growing waistband...it is the cake.

Fortunately, now you can have your cake and eat it too!

1 1/2 cups powdered sugar, sifted
1 cup unbleached flour, sifted
1 1/2 cups egg whites, slightly beaten
1 1/2 tsps cream of tartar
2 tsps pure vanilla extract
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 tsp almond extract
1 c granulated sugar

Preheat oven to 375 F. Mix powdered sugar and flour in a mixing bowl; then set aside. In separate mixing bowl, beat egg whites, cream of tartar, vanilla extract, salt, and almond extract at high speed until well blended. Gradually sprinkle in granulated sugar, 2 tablespoons at a time while beating at high speed. Beat just until sugar is dissolved and egg whites stand in stiff peaks. Do not scrape sides of bowl during beating. Fold in flour mixture, about 1/4 at a time, with a rubber spatula just until flour disappears. Pour mixture in unprepared 10" tube pan. Cut through batter to break large air bubbles with metal spatula,. Bake for 35 minutes. Remove from oven and set upside-down until cooled. Serves about 12.

Nutritional Stuff per serving (1/12th of the cake)
175 Calories
0g Fat (0% calories from fat)
4g Protein 
40g Carbohydrate
0mg Cholesterol
94mg Sodium 
Weight Watchers Points per serving: Where the formula is Points = (Calories/50) + (Fat/12) - (Fibre/5); 3.5 points. That's awesome!

You can top this baby with fresh sliced strawberries, low fat whipped topping (look for Cool Whip in your local supermarket, it comes in really, REALLY light varieties and still tastes awesome,) raspberries, blueberries, whatever tickles your fancy!